Today, a growing number of young Muslim women are talking about what they really want when in the bedroom. Some of them have explained how women are leading the way when it comes to understanding sexuality.
Muslim women want the same thing non-Muslim women want someone that would treat her right. If you have trouble finding out what she really wants, it’s because she doesn’t feel comfortable telling you, or because you didn’t hear her correctly. Therefore, you need to bring her comfort and security, so that she’ll empower you with answers.
Here’s what she’s been too shy to tell you. You may be pleasantly surprised at what she wants. Infact many couples don’t know this and as a result, they are having serious problems:
Make her orgasm before the ‘work’ starts. This is by far the biggest thing women wish men could do more of in bed. Sadly, men don’t do this. They rush through foreplay and go straight for the ‘kill’. This isn’t what women want.
Women totally hate it when a man shoots off too soon, because it prevents them from having orgasms. How will you feel if your wife get you close to an orgasm, then all of a sudden, rolled over and went to sleep? Therefore, men need to learn how to last longer in bed to enable their wives derive their own satisfaction.
Most women like aggressive sex, but remember foreplay is also very important to them. Infact, sex without foreplay has been equated with cruelty. Several of them want you to kiss their neck, shoulders, stomach, pull their hairs, etc. for like hours, because they need more time to orgasm.
They want you to focus on many parts of their bodies. There are 16 ‘hidden’ erogenous zones🤔 on their bodies that can give them pleasure. They want you to arouse the sensations, which can come from these parts of their bodies.
Most women also love it when you are using “sweet” words in the bedroom. I can’t write any of those words here but I’m sure you can use your own imagination on this one.
Pay attention to her after sex. She is now completely open and vulnerable to you. A lot of husband squander this time by ignoring their wives after sex, or by just going to sleep. Women don’t ‘come down’ from sexual pleasure as quickly as men do, so she’s going to want you to hold her and be close to her while she does. She’ll definitely enjoy sex much more if you just spend a few minutes doing this.
These are just little of what women wish you would do in the bedroom. No man was born knowing all these secrets. Therefore, we just have to learn them. Most men learn the hard way, by arduous trial and error over the course of many years.
Women are very simple to work out once you know what’s going on and when you work it all out. And if you really don’t know what to do, ask her. Just ask. “How do you like it?” It’s a simple question, and most women will answer straight out.
Islam has always been extremely open about sexual pleasure, and in particular women’s pleasure, because sex is one of those things that keep your relationship spicy and interesting.
It’s no news that a lot of men and women cheat on their partners because of dissatisfaction as far as sex is concerned, and the numbers are still increasing. Believe me, if every spouse brings satisfaction to their partner, the spouse too would return it graciously.
There is a lack of research about the existing level of sexual knowledge among Muslims. How much do they know? Where do they gain their knowledge? And perhaps the most difficult to ask: what is the reality of how they conduct their sexual lives? We just assume that the need for sex between couple is the same whereas statistics shows that 70% of men enjoy sex more than women.
Alhamdulillah, some Muslim women themselves are trying to open a discussion about sexuality, its role in their identity, and their fears and aspirations. May Allah continue to guide and rectify our affairs.
SubhanaKa Allahumma wabihamdiKa. Ash – hadu alla ilaha illa Anta astagfiruKa wa atubu ilayK
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